Dating another teacher's brother?

[SoCalTeach]

I work at a small private school. All of the teachers are very friendly with each other. I have had the chance during school functions to see and talk with one of the teacher's brothers. He always seems interested in me when we talk ("You look really nice."). I have two questions: Would it be appropriate for me to pursue coffee or something with the brother, to see if we might click? The second question is more difficult: My co-worker, her fiance, and children currently live in the brother's house, so even if I got his number my co-worker might answer the phone. How (if you would) would you go about this situation?

 

[Giggles]

I would

Honestly - I don't see anything wrong with dating a co-worker's brother. Just don't put her in the middle of the situation at any time.

However, one thing I've learned is to always let the guy pursue you - I would give him the hint that it's okay to pursue you - subtly let him know that you are interested in him calling you or asking you out for coffee.

I know it's "modern" society and it's technically okay for women to pursue men - but, I am a traditionalist - and I will say that is how I landed my now husband. He was intrigued by the fact that he knew I was interested, but I didn't pursue him......

 

[Brooke S.]

go for it!!

I say go for it! What do you have to lose. I don't think there is anything wrong with dating a co-workers brother. Have fun!

 

[Keeli0307]

I've been there

My co-worker tried to set me up with her brother. It didn't work out between us. There was no harm to the friendship between my co-worker and me. I suggest you talk to your co-worker about it first. If she is OK with it, then go for it!

 

[ogteacher]

Go for it!

 

[SusanTeach]

Go for it!

I would first mention to the coworker that you're interested, and see if she's okay with the whole possibility. You don't want to make her uncomfortable, and that way you don't have to worry if she answers the phone. Coffee is definitely a good beginning - that's how I met my hubby! I worked with his dad and he invited us both out for coffee (he played matchmaker). The rest is history. Let us know what happens.

 

[javamomma]

Why would it be a problem?

I dont see anything wrong here.

 

[Gloria]

I would

I would use your co-worker as a help to get the relationship started. I would tell her that you are interested in her brother and would wonder if she would help you in getting to know him better. Maybe a double date or something. Then if it works out, she'll be happy to take the credit for the relationship. Go for it!!!! You are an adult and maybe your co-worker will be your sis in law someday.

 

[SoCalTeach]

Update

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies. Tonight I went to dinner with the teacher and asked if she mided if I asked her brother out for coffee sometime. She was taken aback, but said he is kind of seeing someone already. So unless I hear anything more from her, I guess I'll have to look elsewhere.