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illinoisteach

illinoisteach

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I am a BALL of emotions right now! My son and his girlfriend of 9 years decided to get married. He told me last August, but then said they were in no rush. Well, she decided that she liked the date 2/22/22 and they are getting married TODAY at the courthouse :eek: He sent me a message a week ago to "take off work". Oh boy. So...my question is: How much do I give them for a wedding gift? I'm recently divorced, so it's just me. For a host of reasons, he has decided not to communicate with his dad. They are both 28 years old and own a home together, so they are settled (which I'm very grateful for).
 
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twinmom95

twinmom95

Senior Member
Wow!!! That must have been quite a surprise. I would be a bundle of emotions too. My own DD gets married 2 months from today..

I say do what you are comfortable with. You had no time to plan or budget, but this is obviously what they decided worked for them. :D
 
amiga13

amiga13

Senior Member
Congratulations! I would pay for the wedding party’s celebratory meal after the ceremony. After all, you aren’t responsible for a rehearsal dinner. If I had more in my budget after that, I would give them a monetary gift (not cards or certificates—I love Venmo where I can write a brief note) and wish them well in their new journey.
 
Teddi9192

Teddi9192

Senior Member
I would say whatever you can comfortably afford. It sounds like they are level headed, responsible adults. They probably aren't expecting anything and would be upset if you went beyond your ability. I can't give you an exact number but I would say somewhere between $100 (perfect amount for a celebratory dinner) and $1,000. Again, it should be what you can comfortably afford.

Or if you have an heirloom that they would/could use and want, now might be the time.
 
hand

hand

Senior Member
Well first, congratulations! I agree with paying for a meal today if there is one. Then a monetary gift that you can afford. You don’t have to give it to them today. Take some time time think about it and today just enjoy watching them begin their lives together.
 
annie_g

annie_g

Senior Member
Maybe you can ask if there is something they need for their home that you can buy for them. If going with cash, that really depends on your budget (especially since you didn't know this was happening so soon).
 
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Shelby3

Senior Member
There are good

suggestions!
Is there something that you are planning to will to your son that might be an appropriate gift now such as a painting, print or photograph? Furniture?
Congrats to you, MOG!
 
dutchgirl

dutchgirl

Senior Member
Especially because this was kind of a surprise, I think you can take time to consider what you would like to give them, and then give it when you are ready.
 
kahluablast

kahluablast

Senior Member
I am total agreement with Teddi, but then read the comment about giving $222.22. What fun would that be, if you can do it? I also like the idea about paying for a celebratory small group dinner.

I do hope you got to go to the ceremony!
 
illinoisteach

illinoisteach

Senior Member
$222.22

Oh man! That would have been a great idea :D. I was there for the ceremony- it was really nice. I ended up doing a card with $300 and splitting dinner with her parents. My son has always been a bit unconventional and they like to spend their money on their home and travel. It was a good day :).
 
GraceKrispy

GraceKrispy

Senior Member
This is a really cool date! I was thinking that as I wrote it out today. Congratulations to them!! And to you :) Sounds like you did a great thing. I wish them many happy years together :)
 
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