I'm not even married yet to my fiance, and I am already anticipating future in-law problems. My fiance's mother is known to be a meddling MIL and proudly tells people that she broke up my fiance's first marriage. Whats worse is she says this right in front of my future stepdaughter who's 15. While I am not friends with my fiance's exwife and have only met her on a few occasions, she is a good mother. My future MIL critisizes me just as I heard she did with the exwife. Future MIL critisizes how I cook, clean, ect. However a big difference is my fiance is much older than he was in his first marriage(he married his ex when he was only 21) and he is no longer trying to please his mother, and does stand up for me and tells his mother she will not speak to me that way. But the fact that my future MIL was a contributing factor in the failure of my fiance's first marriage does scare me a bit. I know I shouldn't compare his first marriage to the one we will have. But I've heard from other relatives that she resents any woman trying to take her "baby boy" from her and I've heard countless mean and cruel things she did to the exwife. A cousin in the family told me that future MIL hates any woman marrying into her family and will try to make your life miserable. This cousin was "warning" me about future MIL. Future MIL still treats my fiance as if he was a child and he is 38 years old!!! We live 45 minutes away from future MIL so its not like we'll be seeing her all the time. But the woman will still be apart of our lives. Even my future stepdaughter can't stand her grandma.