How old were you when you got pregnant?

[Nina306]

I'm 25 and don't have kids yet. Even though I want them, it's just not the right time. I'd like to start trying in the next 2 years. But people keep asking me when I'm going to have kids, and kind of act like time is running out. Am I an old maid or what? How old was everyone when they had their first kid?

 

[dee]

31

then my second at 33.

My best friend had her first at 42!

I find that it really depends on the part of the country you live in will determine general attitude about "timing."

Get pregnant when the time is best for you, not everyone else.

 

[teach00]

You decide...

I was 27 when my first (and only so far) was born. I now am 29 and ready to try for a second. It's nobody's business when or if you decide to have children!! It's YOUR life!! I had all the same comments and looks, but my response was always -- "someday" or "When the Lord allows." Don't feel pressured just because of those people, but I will tell you, it is the best thing that can happen in your life besides Jesus!!! You'll know!

 

[DM]

You're young yet!

I was thirty when I got pregnant, but perhaps more significantly, we had been married for eight years before we even started trying. I think people had given up on us (like it was their business), but we just had things going on and wanted to be settled before starting a family. We were fortunate in that we didn't get a lot of questions (my parents never asked once, and my son is their only grandchild). You are definitely not and old maid. It used to be common for women to have children by age 25, but it is not so common anymore. It sounds as though you have your own timeline planned out.

You should be aware that after age 30, a woman is more likely to have trouble conceiving. But that doesn't mean a couple should rush to have children. And according to your timing, you would be only 27. But it's just something to be keep in mind.

 

[mrsb203]

preganant

I was 29 with the first and 33 with my second.

 

[Kiki]

me

baby 1 - 28
baby 2 - 30

There is no way I was ready t have a baby at 25!!!

 

[katy]

I'm 34 and pregnant with our first.

You are definitely not an old maid!

 

[Carolyn]

enjoy life now!

Take it from an "old" lady with two kids: You are too young now to have a baby in your arms. Okay, back in the 1800's women had several kids by this time, but this is not the 1800's!!!

The time is right when you feel you and your man have lived your life together as a married couple long enough to feel that an extra life that demands constantly isn't going to interfere with or cramp your lifestyle. Just ignore the busybodies and say something like "When I choose to have them, you'll be the first to know."

I had my first child when I was 28. I had my second when I was 30. Life changes drastically when you have a child, and even more so when you have two. I was very glad that I waited until I was in my late 20's to become pregnant, because once you have children, realize that you will have them for many years and your whole life will be based around them until they are at least 18, and probably beyond. So, having a child isn't something that just anybody (especially the busybody) is going to decide for you.

I am sure that when the time is right, you will get the urge.

 

[slooper]

30 and still waiting

My husband is 36 and I am 30. We found out we were pregnant in March, but lost the baby. We've been married for 8 years and at times it bothers me, but when we saw a positive on the test, I knew that we were ready. We have had 8 years together that most people don't and have wonderful vacations that we wouldn't have done with kids. I wouldn't trade that time for anything. Now, we're trying again with our fingers crossed.

 

[Ima Teacher]

I was 30 before I even got married! I'm 35 now, and still no kids. Truthfully, I'm not planning on having any. However, my friends have had them from age 16 to age 42!

 

[lis3569]

I was married and 23 and was no where near ready to have a child! SO we waited. Unfort, when we tried to get pg. I couldnt. I had excellent infertility drs and had my first child when I was almost 31. I am glad that I was older and more secure when we had our first child.

 

[musicbug]

We waited

I had my first, last and only at 32. Science and the majojrity of society is with you. Ignore people who can't respect other people's choices.

 

[Miller]

I'm 26 and just got married. Kids aren't in the picture for another 2-3 years.

 

[Miller]

re: DM's post

after 30, women drop twice the eggs, so multiple births are more likely.

 

[phoebe611]

kids

My grandmother (age 80-ish ) has 6 children - her last was when she was in her 40's so my uncle is just a few years older than me and feels more like my brother. I just finished reading an article about Geena Davis. She is FIFTY and had twins just 2 years ago. Her first child is just a year or two older than the twins. You definitely have time - God willing. I'm 32 and have been married for 7 years. My husband and I are thinking of a kid in 3 or 4 years (if we have one). Don't let others rush you. You know what's best for you. I cannot imagine having had a child when I was in my 20's. It just wasn't right for me; I had too much to do. Good luck!

 

[km]

27

I was 27 when I had my first We are trying for our 2nd now and I am 32. I am definitely glad that I waited. I was not ready to have children when I was younger. Like the others have said, do what is right for you. Don't let the opinions of other bother you on this, it is too important of a decision.

To Slooper- I am sorry for your loss. Hopefully, everything will turn out fine this time.

 

[chiteacher]

Married @ 27. Pregnant @ 31--baby due in July! But, it did take us 18 months to get pregnant.

 

[bams4]

married @ 29 Had a daughter at 33 and had my son at 35. Don't let anyone decide for you when you should have kids. That's your decision and quite honestly if I had to do it over again, I wouldn't change a thing. I feel I am better able to provide for my children financially, and emotionally than if I were to have kids at a younger age.

 

[Laura]

Ages and stages

I was married at 25 and had my first at 28. We tried for over 18 months too. My second was at 29 (almost 30) and third at 32. I had one miscarrage that was more physicaly painful than emotionally (my second wasn't even 6 months old yet).
Kids are worth it! They can be daunting. My husband's favorite line is he knows why some species eat their young! I sometimes feel I can understand how some parents loose it and abuse their child/ren but I do not agree with it.

 

[Nina306]

Wow, thanks everyone, not just for making me feel better, but for really opening up with your stories! Thanks again!

 

[SC]

Children

I'm 25 and have been married for 5 years. I am so sick of people asking about when we're having kids. My MIL asked me a million times, until finally I got firm with her and said, "We're not ready yet, but when we are, we'll let you know."

Sometimes I would like a baby, but then other times I'm glad my husband and I are alone and free to do what we want when we want. Enjoy your time without children because when they arrive, they will change EVERYTHING.

 

[istoleahalo]

starting point

I'm 28, been married for 2 years....

At Easter dinner, my aunt was telling a story about a friend of hers who is expecting her 6th child. My grandmother said, "I told Harold (Grandfather) when we got married that I would have as many children as he wanted until I turned 30, but then I was done." Because I don't have kids yet, my husband is about to be deployed for at least a year (meaning no kids until he comes back) I said, "Well, I guess 30 is going to have to be my STARTING point instead of my ending!"

 

[GB]

27

and then 29. You have to be ready for kids. They eat up the time, money, and sleep.

 

[SusanTeach]

age for kids

I was:

1st baby - 29
2nd baby - 30
3rd baby - 33

You're definitely not an old maid. Take your time. Babies take a lot of time and energy - and I ready when I was older - I definitely wasn't ready when I was younger.

 

[Heidi43]

Getting Pregnant

I'm a mother of a two-year-old son and was fortunate enough to conceive him at age 40. I'm now pregnant again with our 2nd child and I conceived at the age of 42. I will be 43 years old when our 2nd child is due on the 26th of October 2006. Don't let anyone put any pressure on you to have a child immediately. So long as you start trying in your late 20's early 30's, you shouldn't have any problems so long as you've got a clean bill of health from your doctor. Again, don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise of when or when you should not have a baby...it's your choice!