Just need to get this off my mind

[lis3569]

AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! My teammates are anything but a team to me. They are so selfish and clique! I am new to the grade but not to the school. I have always thought they were too into their little clique but never cared becuase it didnt effect me. Now I am part of this grade and it drives me nuts. They dont include me in things, never give me my "in" teacher day for recess (they decide not to go out and then I dont get my break), they share ideas but not with me, my ideas are never good enough to my face (but then later I see them implementing me), they never check to see if I need anuthing or offer to help... the list goes on. I am very sensitive and this is eating me up. Another colleague sensed what was going on and she feels they are all intimidated by my energy and creativity. They are all in a rut and I guess I could be making them nervous, but geez include me in on things and maybe we could all have fun TOGETHER and help our kids learn. A parent also made a comment on how the others should learn from me. SO maybe they are jealous or intimidated or whatever, but their poor attitude and lack of inclusion is only making me want to work harder at what I do. Their plan is going to backfire! HA! Okay as I said I just needed to vent. Can you tell it has been a hard day with them? Thanks for listening!

 

[jennmcg72]

My Sympathies!

Been there, done that! I can certainly relate to your feelings of frustration! I work at a very "cliquesh" school and I just don't fit in either. Can't really pinpoint why, other than some of the same reasons you mentioned above. You know what - I'd bet we could work together nicely! Hang in there.

 

[lis3569]

I wish I could work with you! HA! Together we could blow these ladies out of the water! It is sad that they are so insecure at their ages! It is sad that I am affected so by their actions. I try not to be but...

 

[GB]

Venture out...

Rise above and toot your own horn!! Keep offering up suggestions and don't let them take advantage. Just kindly remark that instead, "I'll take the first recess break back from vacation inside, since I missed the last two. Then we can start rotatation again." Don't let them say you won't work as a team member, but jump in and get what you deserve, too!!

 

[jrg]

know the feeling

I too have to deal with a difficult group. I was the fifth teacher hired. Let's just say it has not been an easy road. My group has 4 sets of everything so I always have to borrow and no one wants to share. The saga continues daily with them. I just choose to do the best job I can in MY classroom and don't let them get me down. Hope everything works out for you.

 

[baileystavern]

I agree with the other response...."rise above it." A piece of advice that my mother gave me a long time ago helps me get through similar situations: "It's not what happens to you, it's how you handle it." Don't do anything that would give them an opportunity to speak negatively of you. Keep your focus on the kids and hopefully your kind heart, energy, and creativity will rub off on your other team members! Good luck!

 

[Mrs. G]

I'm sorry

I'm sorry you have such a bad team to work with. I have a great team and we all work together very well. I don't think I could handle not being on a team that did not include me.

I think it may be time for you to be a little assertive (what have you got to loose). I agree with the above poster that said you should tell them you are taking the first recess break after the break since you have missed so many.

Keep being a good teacher and try not to let them get to you! They are probably just jealous of your creative ideas!