Mad at myself...

[Ilvtching]

I did something I swore I would never do...I engaged in a FB battle with a family member.

My MIL is here visiting and is spending time with all her children in our state. She has been posting along the way about the things she has done while here...well my SIL (who my DH and I despise for many reasons) keeps posting rude comments on my MIL's posts about how her "real" family misses her etc. Those I could let go, but when my MIL posted today about what a great day she had with us and my SIL responded by calling my husband a "self centered asshole" the protective side came out in me and I had to respond.

I didn't swear at her or anything, but let her know it was rude and not appropriate for social media. I don't want to unfriend my MIL because she loves the pictures of my son and does live across the country, but if my SIL continues to respond to MIL's post so rudely, then I will be forced to.


I could kick myself about now! UGH!!!!



Just had to get it out.

 

[Milyn]

Good for you

Good for you for standing up for your husband and mother-in-law.

I wouldn't un-friend my mother-in-law, but I would my sister-in-law if I hadn't already.

How does mother-in-law respond to her daughter-in-law? Does she ignore her? If so, you have a saint for a mother-in-law.

Enjoy the rest of your mother-in-law's visit and don't waste any more time on the sister-in-law who is looking to make herself important and is actually making herself look like a "jerk."

Sometimes it is great the way these things happen. Many people don't sound like "idiots" in person, and then .... they post things on facebook and their true self comes out. I'm sorry for your brother-in-law that is married to this "witch." How rude to try and ruin your mother-in-law's vacation and time with her family.

 

[klarabelle]

I would unfriend your SIL. She is out of line and rude.

I got into a war with my STBX SIL, I don't regret it except my DB has "disowned" me. I don't think he realized STBX SIL trashed talked about him and I was defending him. As soon as this happened I defriend her, as has alot of our relatives.

Keep your MIL in the loop, don't defriend her.

 

[maxwell]

Holidays are stressful...

I am sorry that you are going through this. You can go in and edit or remove your post if you wish. I would not unfriend my MIL, but I think I would at least block that SIL. She is a small, hurtful person. Don't let her get to you anymore. Not worth it.

 

[ZipLine]

Don't Blame You

Is this your MIL's daughter/your DH's sister? What you said was not rude- and it was the truth. Her remarks are inappropriate. She's just embarrassing herself though by showing what a crude woman she is. Actually, your MIL should tell her to stop. If she doesn't, then I would un-friend your MIL and just tell her you don't wish to subject yourself to seeing remarks against your loved ones.

 

[Ilvtching]

Thanks all. Already un-friended SIL a LONG time ago.

My MIL just posts and never goes back to read any comments...so she had no idea what her lovely daughter said. I sent my MIL a text to apologize and let her know it was nothing to so with her and she was clueless about what I was saying. So she read the post and said she will dicuss it with her daughter when she gets home....I told her it wasn't necessary and I don't really care.

I have no intentions of responding...wish I could find a way to not get any updates when she responds to that thread. If I delete my comment will it stop sending me the notification that someone responded?

A

 

[trishg1]

If you block your SIL, you won't see what she says on your MIL's posts.

 

[Ilvtching]

Thanks Trishg1, I just blocked her. Didn't know I could do that!

Zipline, it is my DH's sister. They don't get along at all...we try to avoid her at all costs. I just felt she crossed the line with her post. Oh and My MIL did tell her to shut up basically.

Thanks all, I really appreciate your support in my moment of weakness!

 

[trishg1]

I block my XH because he gets on my nerves. Be warned-you will see times when it will show more posts than you can read. That may mean that SIL has commented. IF YOU UNBLOCK her to see what she says, you have to wait 48 hours to reblock her. I learned that one the hard way

 

[Ilvtching]

I really don't care what she has to say! Thanks for information on blocking someone. I REALLY REALLY do appreciate it!

A

 

[Milyn]

my advice

My advice, which I have to work on taking myself.

Never let FOOLS control your life. NEVER let FOOLS know they got to you, because that gives them power and only makes them try harder to get your again.

IGNORE FOOLs. It drives them crazy!!!!!