pictures

[catherine k]

I have noticed something at my dad & stepmom's house over the years that bothers me a little. Everytime I give them a new picture of me for whatever occasion, other pictures disappear and they replace it with the new one. They only keep out one picture of me, but tons of my stepbrother. I think this is my stepmom's doing, but I find it odd that they will only put out one of me, but tons of my stepbrother. For example, I gave my dad & stepmom my high school graduation picture years ago. When I graduated college I gave them that picture, and my college grad picture replaced the high school one. When I got engaged my fiance and my engagement picture replaced the college grad picture. When we got married our wedding picture replaced the engagement picture. When we had our first baby, our first family picture of me, my husband, & my daughter replaced our wedding picture. So for every new picture I give them, the old ones disappear and I never see them again. However they do have albumns of pictures of me in it, but it does bother me a little that they will only put out one picture of me and tons of my stepbrother. I brought this to my dad's attention a few years ago and he said that he doesn't arrange the pictures in his house, so this probably is my stepmom's doing. But how could he not notice that there is only one picture of me, and that every time I give him a new one the other picture of me always disappears. I'm not going to press the issue cause I have a good relationship with my dad and my stepmother is at least nice to my face(what she says behind my back is a different story). But it still bothers me a little. But I'm not going to make a big deal about it. But boy has my dad's family noticed about the pictures over the years, and they comment to my stepmother how she hardly has any pictures out of me or my grandparents(dad's parents). I know that must bother her that my dad's family knows what she's doing.

 

[Karren]

Question

Stop now... Think.....How many pictures do you have displayed in your home that are "only' of your stepmom?

Have you tried giving them a picture that is already nicely framed? Perhaps your stepmom wouldn't put away the other one if you did this.

It is also up to your Dad to change this if he wants to. Sometimes men don't get hung up on the type of details that women do. I know my husband doesn't really care how I decorate the house. I think I have a few more childhood pictures of my family displayed compared to his. That is mainly because I saved them and brought them with me when I married him. The pictures of his family are the ones that my MIL gave me when she decided to part with them (about 10 years into the marriage). She had them displayed in her home.

 

[catherine k]

actually i have given dad and stepmom FRAMED pictures. In fact every single one I've given them were framed, and when I give them a new framed picture, the old framed picture disappears. I agree this is up to my dad. In my home I have a family picture of dad, stepmom, stepbrother & myself when we were younger and my wedding picture with dad, stepmom, my husband and I. There aren't any of "only" her, but point it I included her. I've also put up and framed a lot of my husband's family. Maybe I'll just take down the pictures in my home of my stepmother and see if that gets her attention. Its not a huge deal and nothing to start an argument over, but it is somewhat bothersome. It makes me feel as if she doesn't think of me as family.