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Melinda
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My husband and I have a 1 year old daughter. As most people know little children pick up on things that they hear, which is why I am concerned about my daughter being around my dad too much. My dad and stepmom are nice people and I know they would never bring harm to my daughter. Its their values I don't agree with. Actually most of my issues have to do with my dad, not my stepmom. My dad makes tons of racist remarks and jokes. My stepmom doesn't care for other races, but she usually isn't as vocal about it as my dad is. My stepmom just doesn't want to associate with or be friends with people of other races, whereas my dad downright hates anyone who isn't white.
My dad grew up in Louisiana. He grew up in a small town in Lousiana where blacks and whites did not mix. The town he grew up in to this day still has a white side of town and a black side of town. Its quite segregated, mainly cause the blacks can't afford to live in the white side of town. The only blacks my dad ever knew were the housekeepers. My dad is quite racist against blacks and hispanics. He will openly say that he hates them. He's actually proud to say that he's had relatives that were in the Klan. He'll say things such as we should have guns at the border and anyone who comes into our country illegally should be shot. He calls hispanics "spics", "wetbacks" and other derogatory terms. For blacks he'll say words such as n-gger, negro, and colored as if that is normal ways of describing black people.
Now I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does. My husband and I live in a mainly white neighborhood so its not like we around a lot of different cultures a lot. But still I don't want my daughter to grow up hearing things like this from her grandfather. I've spoken to my dad about not saying stuff like that around my daughter and he just laughs at me. He said I was trying to be too "politically correct" and that there's nothing wrong with him using the word n-gger around my daughter. I don't know what else to do. Now I grew up with racist grandparents myself(dad's parents) and luckily I didn't end up racist. I lived with my mother who was very tolerant of other people and she taught me about accepting other cultures. So I hope for the same outcome with my daughter. I hope since my husband and I are tolerant and don't use words like that, and teach her about accepting people of all races that she won't grow up to be racist. I just hate it though that my dad is so racist. And he's like that in public too. It is just so embarrassing. He will use those derogatory terms out in public.
My dad grew up in Louisiana. He grew up in a small town in Lousiana where blacks and whites did not mix. The town he grew up in to this day still has a white side of town and a black side of town. Its quite segregated, mainly cause the blacks can't afford to live in the white side of town. The only blacks my dad ever knew were the housekeepers. My dad is quite racist against blacks and hispanics. He will openly say that he hates them. He's actually proud to say that he's had relatives that were in the Klan. He'll say things such as we should have guns at the border and anyone who comes into our country illegally should be shot. He calls hispanics "spics", "wetbacks" and other derogatory terms. For blacks he'll say words such as n-gger, negro, and colored as if that is normal ways of describing black people.
Now I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does. My husband and I live in a mainly white neighborhood so its not like we around a lot of different cultures a lot. But still I don't want my daughter to grow up hearing things like this from her grandfather. I've spoken to my dad about not saying stuff like that around my daughter and he just laughs at me. He said I was trying to be too "politically correct" and that there's nothing wrong with him using the word n-gger around my daughter. I don't know what else to do. Now I grew up with racist grandparents myself(dad's parents) and luckily I didn't end up racist. I lived with my mother who was very tolerant of other people and she taught me about accepting other cultures. So I hope for the same outcome with my daughter. I hope since my husband and I are tolerant and don't use words like that, and teach her about accepting people of all races that she won't grow up to be racist. I just hate it though that my dad is so racist. And he's like that in public too. It is just so embarrassing. He will use those derogatory terms out in public.