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Should I be upset with DH


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Long story short….his elderly dad passed away & they had visitation today for 8 hrs. I couldn’t attend with him because I have pleurisy & feel pretty bad. We are both vaccinated & my elderly parents who live with us are too. I still told him to wear a mask as many in his extended family are not vaccinated. Well….he didn’t. He just nonchalantly told me that no one was wearing them & they weren’t required so he didn’t. I’m pretty upset about it but I know he lost his dad & im trying not to freak out. I’m just so disappointed in him. I thought he knew better. I can be a bit of worry wort but this delta variant has me scared to death yet again and h3 knows this!


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Well, you can get upset if you really want to--but I don't know that it would change things for the better in any way. It might be worth considering masks in your house for the next few days and then testing. I hope he stays well--and all those who were at the visitation.

And that you get over that pleurisy quickly.

Ima Spedtcher

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I would be irritated because my DH would be isolated from the rest of us for the next 10 days. I would be absolutely furious though if he did that AND came down with covid.


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Yes, you should be upset. But, it's not going to change anything at this point. I'm sorry he and all the other people there weren't intelligent enough to behave appropriately.

I'm sorry for your loss. And I truly hope this time of grieving isn't complicated by anyone getting sick.


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I don’t think you should be mad. It won’t change anything at this point and you are all under a lot of stress. Being upset will just add to that. What’s done is done. I would have a conversation with him and talk it over but he probably wasn’t thinking as clearly at the time as he typically does. I would just focus on the good stuff right now.


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I would not be happy about it, but the grief that comes from losing a parent can be overwhelming. It was for me. Wow an 8 hour visitation. That’s a long time.

I would let it go. You are all vaccinated, thank goodness — break through cases are exremely rare. I would ask him, however, to take a Covid test in a few days to provide a peace of mind.
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I'd be mad only if he was stubborn like that pre Covid and before the loss of his family member. I would not get near him for 14 days nor share the same room and sleep area.


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My husband would have used the same excuse. In fact he used it last week when his card league started. To say I was upset is……
But, I can’t change what happened. I can only encourage him to wear one next week.

My BIL died a few weeks ago, non Covid rested. There were several (proudly) unvaccinated there. The five people who masked at the funeral were vaccinated. One unmasked unvaccinated SIL coughed through the service. (She’s had a smoker’s cough for years, but… it still made me nervous about her Covid status.)

I feel your pain.


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I know its disappointing and frustrating. I would feel the same way but do agree with the others about letting it go.

I hope you feel better SOON!