Thank You/Update on Para

[Mrs.EastCoast]

Thanks to those of you who posted ... I appreciate the opinions and honesty. I am going to try and see her w/ different eyes and keep telling myself that she's just trying to be helpful.

I do need to say though ... I wasn't there one day this week ... and I am pregnant. My students knew that I had found out the gender of our baby and they voted on what they thought it was. I told them I would tell them on the day I ended up being out. The next day, a colleague of mine told me (it happened to come up, wasn't random or malicious) that she had asked her on the day I wasn't there, Should she tell my students what I was having, because I said I'd tell them that day and they were SO excited, and she wasn't sure if she should or not ... my colleague told her that under NO circumstances should she reveal that information.

I think that this instance speaks volumes about the woman's mentality. Who would even think this was up for debate? Did she really believe it would be ok for her to tell something like that?

I am trying SO hard to keep things in perspective.

 

[n2n2n2n]

Keep smiling. Sometimes people get carried away in their enthusiasm. I agree --- any news about your baby is your business to tell.

 

[seuss4me]

I am sure you are excited about your baby and I am sure that you are looking forward to telling your class whether you will have a boy or girl. Not everyone would look at telling the class as being such an important thing, however. In fact, some people might debate whether that is a subject that should even be discussed with a class. My point is that it takes ALL kinds of people to make a world.....and it helps us all to relax more if we remember that when looking at other's actions.

 

[mamateaches18]

Overboard

I sorry but I think that it's you that has the problem. If your TA had told your students about your baby then I would have too agree that she's over stepping her bounds. However, she did have the sense to ask someone whose opinion she seems to respect if revealing your surprise would be appropriate. Did you stop to think that after waiting so long, maybe the children were so disappointed the TA just wanted to make them happy. Like the PP suggested, just relax and try to work as a team. If you will allow yourself to give up a little of your control issues, this women can be your greatest classroom resource.

 

[usateach]

I agree...

I think the fact that she was even thinking about revealing that information is a no-no. I am glad she asked someone before telling the class. What a disappointment that would have been for you. I'm glad she didn't!

 

[seuss4me]

I have found that it helps me to relax and enjoy other people and their perspective on things if I put a little less focus on me. Try thinking about the other person and where they might be coming from, and you will most certainly be far less stressed about tiny issues.

 

[Mrs.EastCoast]

yeah ...

I don't know WHY I am obsessing ... it really bothers me because I don't think she does anything on purpose ... it just comes across as bothersome to me because I am just a very different type of person ... but you have all given me some valuable input. I would like to stop thinking about it ... like the last poster said, focus less on myself and think about positive things ... I pretty much ruined my weekend mentally because no matter what I did, how much this entire situation w/ the para bothers me ... not just the baby thing ... the fact of the matter is, she didn't say anything thankfully ... so that doesn't even really bother me anymore ... just everything else is on my mind and how I feel like it makes my job that much harder, if that makes any sense ... in some ways she helps to make my job easier on a clerical level ... and I am appreciate of that. Anyways, it would be nice to just let it roll.

 

[Ally]

Lesson for me

Mrs.EastCoast...your responses are so insightful and mature. Lately, I have been dealing with people who can only see their own opinion are are so willing to immediately assume the worst and never try to dig deeper...it seems to me like they are just looking for excuses to remain miserable.

I have really enjoyed reading your posts and your responses as you are obviously taking all the advice offered into consideration and are not just dismissing the things that do not agree whole heartedly with you.

Thank you for reminding me to keep my perspective. If I was in your situation, I would be upset about someone sharing my news like that (or thinking about sharing my news) but the other posters are correct in that "stealing your thunder" might not have been her objective.

Plus it is just not worth the upset...and I say that from experience. I too tend to obsess over things that happened (or might have happened) and it can ruin your day, your weekend or your week if you let it. I know it is hard but try and let it go...I am trying to do the very same thing with my work issues. I am experiencing limited success mind you...but I will keep trying.

 

[garnet]

is this the same para

that wanted to do things her way with a student you have and not follow the IEP (or is that someone else's para??) If it is, perhaps she wants some of the limelight. Thank goodness she checked with someone first. You should not be wasting your energy over the weekend thinking about her. Do you think she does the same? Beside, won't you be gone soon for your maternity leave and not have to deal with her? Don't turn into one of those teachers on leave who are obsessing about what is happening back in their classroom!! (ie. control freaks Enjoy your pregnancy and getting your home ready for your child.

***Well, Boy or Girl????