What do you think of this?

[Shelbel]

I happen to live across the street from one of my students (I have a long driveway and it's kind of a busy road, not like a subdivision). So, last night, unannounced, his father shows up (mom is not in the picture) because he has a question about homework, and wants to find out exactly what his son's special ed schedule is like (when he's out of my room and for how long, etc.).

When he showed up, I was in the middle of doing dishes, drying clothes, helping my own kids with homework--it was a hectic time of day at my house.

Why couldn't he have called? Shown up this morning at school? Called me at school? UGH. The more I think of it, the madder I feel. What should I have done or do if this happens again?

 

[CDHElmo]

CDHElmo

That is very inappropriate! He completely invaded your privacy and crossed the line. If he does it again (let's pray he doesn't), come to the door and state that you are only available at school and during school hours. If he needs to speak with you, he needs to set up a conference with you to take place on school grounds. I would let your admistrator know what happened, too. It's too bad we don't have caller id for our front doors!

 

[TexTeacher]

I would call or write a note and tell him if he needs to see you about school matters, he needs to contact you during school hours. You are not expected to be on the job 24-7. I live in the same neighborhood as 75% of the kids I teach. They all know which house is mine, I have never had a parent or a child come to my door to discuss school.

 

[Teach 5]

wow

I probably wouldn't do anything right now, but if he shows up again, I would explain that my home time is for my family, but I would be happy to make an appointment with him to answer his questions.

I also tell my parents that if their child doesn't understand the homework & they can't help them that they should write a note & I will help the child the next day at school.

I also live in the neighborhood with my students and haven't had any of them come to door. Good luck!

 

[Bob]

Two Thoughts

Two thoughts are running through my head. Teachers are professionals and we deserve respect for our time.

I have had some parents unintentionally intrude upon my personal time because they felt an informal setting might be beneficial for both the parent and the teacher. These parents were very understanding when I confronted them, and I did so very carefully, praying that I wouldn't hurt their feelings.

Parents who show no respect for the teacher are going to be offended no matter what I do. So what. I'm in charge of my worktime, not them. I don't tell them when to do things, and I do not expect them to tell me, either. I keep my conscience clear, I'm polite, but I set the boundaries.

 

[Shelbel]

Hmmmm......

You all make valid points, I probably should have said something right then, but I guess I'll have to save that for next time (although there better not be a next time).

 

[Giggles]

just see if it happens again

We are all nice people - I wouldn't have thought to say anythign right at that moment either, but it would've made me angry, too. I have students that live right next door to me and yes, most of the kids in the school live in my neighborhood and know my house and I was worried about this happening, but luckily, not yet, and now I know I should say something at the moment if it ever does happen!!!

 

[Mrs. G]

One time thing!

I hope for your sake this was only a one time thing. I think I would have reacted the same way you did. When you are caught off guard it is hard to think on your feet. I sure if he should come around again you will have a response prepared for him. Hindsight is always 20/20!

 

[Jennifer in OK]

Bob

"Parents who show no respect for the teacher are going to be offended no matter what I do." Great way to state it. I hadn't really thought about that, but your statement is oh so true.